img_20141128_083020I was recently told, “I feel like that African (Black) inferiority complex is still in you because it is in our gene“. I was dazed because that was the first, and honestly I didn’t understand why “Black” had to be in that statement, more so to say “it is in our gene“. Don’t Whites suffer from inferiority complex too? Anyways, as always I dismissed it with a smile hoping to come scribble out all my worries here. Really, it is disturbing.

In my defense, I’d like to point out a few key attributes that people with inferiority complex have, not necessarily “Blacks“.

  1. They are unable to feel self-worth; they complain over every thing they do, a feeling of worthlessness.
  2. They are always fixated on their weaknesses; optimism is far-fetched in their sight.
  3. They see criticism as hate, always finding reasons to avoid self-responsibility by trying to push blame on someone else.
  4. They are mostly introverts; very shy.
  5. They prefer not to try because they fear failure.

Do I posses any of the above attributes? I doubt it. However, I’m glad that this statement came up, at least I get to address an issue most people suffer from. Peruse those attributes again, do you suffer from any? Yes! Do you know that inferiority complex is a mental disorder? You probably do not, but now you know. So for those suffering from this problem, these are a few pointers on how to overcome it.

  1. Avoid negative self talk; you deserve as much as the person you mind keeps saying is superior and unless you speak positive to yourself, you’re stalk with your problem.
  2. Prying and believing in what you see in the social media should be avoided; Social media is filled with lies, they don’t always appear as they portray themselves, stop believing and start working and achieving. Build a personality your looks can’t match.
  3. This is a bit controversial but sometimes focusing on a persons weakness asides yours will help boost your self-esteem.
  4. Keep your company tight with positive people; remember you are trying to get rid of negativity’
  5. If you are truly struggling with inferiority complex then it is best you get professional advice from a behavioral therapist. After all, “who forming don epp?

This is just a few attributes and solutions that should help you get through this problem of low self-esteem. I hope my experience of a disturbing chat has helped shed light to an unbecoming path.

What do you think of inferiority complex? Am I wrong or am I right? I’d like to read your views on it, so leave a comment, like, and share; lets keep the discussion going.



  1. This is a difficult subject for me because I was once, and parts of me still have that complex inside of me. I am definitely very shy at the core, but once I get comfortable with myself in new surroundings and new company I feel more self secure. It’s a defense mechanism to stay introverted, but it is also destructive behavior that will leave you isolated and negative. Keeping the negative self talk at bay and filling your self with positivity can definitely help. However, I think that making something out of yourself, go out of your comfort zones consistently, surroundings yourself with different types of people who share the same views as you, but also be willing to open your heart to the ones who are completely different from you, will give you more self confidence that you just become humble. You become peaceful and loving.
    Self love is a must.
    If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love anyone else properly.
    People who don’t love themselves criticize others. It is not their fault, they do not know better.

    Jesus made it a point to hang out with the sinners and the saints. He treated everyone equally even when they didn’t give him the same courtesy in return…
    I think it is important that we show the same grace, even to the ones who are difficult to love, even the ones who stereotype us.
    I think you handled this situation with class and integrity.

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    1. Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your views on this and don’t worry about your editing, I understand everything you wrote.
      I wrote a very long reply but I figured I was just repeating what you said…lol. I totally agree with you on this. “Stay quiet”, you mind will tell you, that way you will not feel weird after saying something; but that’s the low self-esteem talking
      One challenge I had the most is keeping company with people of different interest. They never understand you and it gets worse when one has never known what it feels like to be understood.
      I love how how you related this to Jesus, best line I read. I hope this reaches a lot of people. Thank you!

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  2. I think this is a great topic, looking back at so many things that could have gone in the right direction but because of the walls I built. I feel low self esteem literally destroys your level of association with people around you, and make you hold back very important things that you need to let go. I pray we all have the courage to overcome our fairs.

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